As you think about ways to get back together with the ex you should keep in mind that they are making plans as well. There is an element of strategy involved with repairing a breakup, and when you recognize what you are up against you can do a better job of preparing.
They Still Think About You
No matter how hard your breakup was, there is almost no way the ex can forget about you in such a short time span. Even if they have met someone new they will be comparing that person to you in some ways. And whether their memories of your relationship are good or bad, the fact that the ex still has you in their thoughts is your advantage.
They Want You to Say Something
You might think since you were the one dumped that the ex would call you first. This rarely happens though for a couple of reasons. For starters, there is an expectation that if you really want to save the relationship you will make the first move. Secondly, the ex left because he or she was not satisfied in some way, and so in their eyes the relationship is dead until you make some changes.
They Want to Want You
Despite all the negatives that ruined your relationship, there is one solution that can fix everything. Somewhere in all of the turmoil the ex lost their feelings of attraction for you. Even if you and the ex were 100% compatible, without attraction there is no fire…no reason to be excited for the future. If you can resurrect the attraction the ex once had for you then they will come back. In many cases the ex wishes this would happen, but their partner never makes the attempt.
Somewhere behind the tears and fighting of your breakup there is a truth that few people recognize. That is, the ex is still watching you and thinking about what you are doing. The catch is they have committed to leaving you behind because the spark faded. But instead of seeing this as the end you should view it as an invitation. The ex wants you to rekindle the romance and good times again. Their first move was to leave…how will you respond to make them come back?
