The First 3 Steps to Get Your Ex Back

No matter how impossible it may seem, there are things you can do to win back your ex after they dumped you.  The “secret” is to focus on attracting them back instead of trying to apologize or fix what went wrong in the past.  Here are some simple steps for getting started…

Step 1: Clear Your Mind
With so many emotions swirling in your head it is hard to think clearly. This can lead to irrational behavior which is why you really should take a “timeout” from your responsibilities for a day or two. Get out all those tears, listen to breakup songs, and reminisce over old pictures. Do all this now so can focus on the task of getting your ex back.

Step 2: No Contact with Your Ex…for now
Have you heard of the “no contact rule”? The idea is to distance yourself from your ex so they wonder what you are up to. Now is not a good time to call your ex and say you miss them, love them, etc. Doing this works against the laws of attraction and will likely just turn them away further.

Another reason to avoid contact is that your emotions are too unsettled at this point to communicate in a calm and confident manner. You can’t afford to make any mistakes this early in the process which is easy to do when you’re upset. Be patient…you’re not going to fix this breakup today so give some space and begin working on the third step.

Step 3: Choose a Strategy
Very few people have any experience with winning back love, and this is why the failure rate is so high. The most common recommendations you hear like sending flowers, writing poems, or showing up at your ex’s house rarely work because they do nothing to make your ex attracted to you.  All the “romantic ideas” you read in the advice columns are just glorified apologies. If all you have to say is “I’m Sorry” or “I Love You” then don’t waste your time.

The most effective plan is to rekindle those lost feelings of attraction while proving to your ex that things will be different in the future. Ideas for doing this are not always easy to come up with, so give yourself time to plan a thoughtful and creative strategy.

Right now your ex is thinking they have already experienced the best you have to offer in a relationship. You need to show them a spontaneous and exciting side of you they have never seen before. If you can peak their curiosity and desire then they will forget all of the bad things that happened in the past.

If you can’t find the right words to say that will attract your ex back then you should check out Text Your Ex Back by Mike Fiore. This unique guide combines proven attraction methods with the popularity of texting. I call it the modern “cheat sheet” on how to get your ex back.